First off – You cannot be sly or sneaky about it. Seriously, that’s not the way to build a long-term relationship.
However, there are several things you can try to make your man commit to you, provided those things are based on love, honesty and respect. To understand what you need to do to cement and prolong your love, consider the following tips to get the man of dreams to commit to you.
Don’t force being exclusive
Usually, the best way to make a man commit to you is to not try too hard. Badgering him to be exclusive so soon might send him running in the opposite direction. Instead, lots of relationship experts opine that it is better to wait for things to be totally exclusive until both of you are ready for commitment. However, making a man feel like you are pushing him into marriage too soon can really terrify him.
Make him wait
So you’re really into him, he turns you on and gets you all hot and bothered?
Wait a minute.
Although men love sex and will definitely try to have it with you, at the same time, they kind of want to wait and let it be teased out a bit.
This is for your benefit too. The best thing you can do is to wait until you feel like there’s some emotional connection or make a short list of conditions (in your mind). For example, you can make him introduce you to his family first. Don’t make it look like you are trying to be high-maintenance, but if he persists, tell him although he turns you on, you aren’t ready for sex yet.
Don’t make him feel unwanted, or shut him down. Let him know that you’re really into him but you want to make sure that this isn’t just a fling.
Don’t talk too much about the future together
If you really want to frighten a man away quickly, just talk about getting married, how many kids you wish to have, as well as all your plans for a future together.
I repeat, DON’T talk about your future unless your man asks. A man easily gets freaked out thinking that you may be the only woman he’ll ever meet for the rest of his life. If he asks you about your future plans, it means he likes you and certainly wouldn’t mind having a future with you.
Befriend his family
Of course, this is if you’re lucky enough to meet them. Generally, if a man likes you, he’ll want you to meet his family. For most people, family is the most important thing and that includes guys too. Bottom line – A man wants to see his woman get on well with his family so there are no problems in the future should he decide to commit to her.
Befriend his friends
When you meet his friends for the first time, leave a good impression. Making his friends like you is a sure-fire way to make him love you because no guy wants to be with someone who doesn’t get along well with his peers. Be that woman. Connect with his past by aligning yourself with his friends.
Tell him what you want
While I’m sure you have given him more than a few hints, subtle or slightly subtle, about what you want in a relationship, you need to be very clear and ensure that he knows you are looking for a long-lasting connection. Explain it to him to ensure he fully understands, after all, he might have quite a different definition of a long-lasting relationship than yours.
If you are looking to get married eventually, just tell him; if you want kids at some point, tell him as well. It’s vitally important to ensure that you both want to walk the same road; otherwise you will both be miserable later.
I can’t overemphasize this point-make sure you get straight to the point (if and when it comes up in conversation) and make him fully understand that you are looking for a life partner. If your man can’t give you what you’re looking for, find someone else. It’s better you know sooner than later.
After some months, ask to be introduced to his friends and loved ones
If a man introduces you to his friends and family, it’s his very basic way of committing, which is a vital step on the path to a lifelong commitment. The guy who will not bring you into his world won’t marry you.
Men want to see their women interacting with people important to them before committing. He’s including you in his social life (which indicates he loves you) is an important step on the road towards commitment.
Know when enough is enough
Once you have set your personal time limit, follow it. Know when you’ve had enough. Know when it is time to give up and move on.
Different people have different personal time limits, but there comes a time when you have to trust your instincts. If you’ve reached your own time limit and your man is showing no signs of committing, then maintain your self-respect and graciously move on.
In summary, you deserve only the best. This means that you don’t ever settle for second best. Want to learn more on how to make him commit? Be sure to check out the video, Girl Gets Ring here.
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